GOD AT THE CENTER OF MARRIAGE

 GOD AT THE CENTER OF MARRIAGE

Can two people really live with each other as husband and wife till death? The present generation would say it’s not possible based on the numerous separations and unsuccessful marriages. Because of this, many countries have legalized divorce. The demand was just too much. But is it a matter of numbers? How about those who have stayed together and are considered “successful in their marriage?” In reality, they outnumber those who have separated.

As a priest for twenty-eight years, I have officiated countless marriages and, so far, there are only two couples who came back and told me that they were contemplating on separating and applying for annulment. For what reason were they separating? They lied to me when I interviewed them prior to their wedding. Had they told me everything, I would have advised them to think twice about their decision before they plunged into marriage.

So, what do we say about those who have been married for twenty-five, thirty, forty, and fifty years or more? They are ordinary people who love each other and have God at the center of their married life. Unfortunately, today, good marriages are considered exceptions rather than the rule. The truth is, there are still many who stay married; only a few are either divorced or separated but they are just noisier. Marriage, as the Book of Genesis and the Gospels teach us, is sacred and cannot be dissolved by whatever legal or human way.

Couples can work out their marriages—not without much difficulties but with much help from God. Of course, there will be exceptions. There may be couples who could not really and essentially be reconciled. But they are very rare and should be the exception rather than the rule, so why legalize it? Legalizing and providing divorce as an option comes as an easy way out.

Marriage is not merely a secular union that adorns families with children but also a spiritual one which enriches the Church with members. It is a vocation to serve humanity through the family. It is a salvific action which results from obedience to God’s commandments. Fr. Benny Tuazon

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What role does God play in your marriage or family life?

Dearest God, protect our marriage and family from all evil attacks. Amen.